Addiction, Mental Health, Wellness

Pills & Potions ( Breaking The Silence Part Two)

If you missed part one of Breaking the Silence please read that here before you continue with this post.

Now that that’s out of the way… Here’s part two: Pills & Potions.

It took me longer than I had anticipated to write part two of Breaking the Silence because to be honest, I have been struggling with some of the realizations and revelations I have had about the state of my mental health then and now. I think what has been hardest to acknowledge is that I was actually pretty depressed but ploughing through life not even realizing I was depressed yet being an occasional shoulder and clown to others when I was slowly but surely thinning away. FLIP!


That level of not being that self aware really hurt to admit. Flip. My heart event went a little sore typing that. 🙁

Anyway, I titled this piece Pills n Potions after Nicki Minaj’s song which happened to be released round about the time I was a seasoned pill popper and cough syrup guzzler in 2014. I used to struggle to sleep because of two things: Insomia and overthinking (these might be the same thing. Don’t ask me! It’s two things to me!) . I had an over active mind and for those of you who are new to me and my story, I always believed I was going to die at the age of 25, so during the ages of about 18 to 25 I was on a self imposed accelerated program to do and create as much as I possibly could before dying. My logic was, I am this incredibly multi- talented and multi – faceted person who is running out of time to release and impart every gift God had deposited in me. I was not tryna get to back to heaven half full because I hadn’t fully exhausted the gifts I was sent to contribute to my nation and generation. No ma’am, not me! I was and still am determined to leave this earth empty having poured out every gift and completed every assignment.

I am known for sucking out everything out of any opportunity I am given. Kinda like folk who suck out all the marrow from stewed chicken bones ( and by folk, y’all know I mean black folk!). Nehu, there is nothing I did not fully explore. When I was in corporate, during, between and after work I was building my portfolio as a social media influencer ( I used to go by the name RuTendo DeNise / The ToweRing Goddess). I was a columnist, Twitter champion, blogger, poet, I was at every event and covering it virtually, I was sneaking in and out of countries to model, taxi shuffling to studio to record music AND perform while being a features editor interviewing people, planning photo shoots, press releases, contributing spoken word to a weekly radio show in Tanzania while trying to find love and my identity. Gosh, the things I put myself through though. Geez!

I never allowed my body and especially my mind any rest. My reasoning was that at least when I die, my generation and those after me would have something to inspire them into pursuing their gifting and calling.  This was all well and good until my body and mind said HELL NAW!

I was so fixated on this crazy count down to my death time line that I ignored by mind and body’s plea that when I started experiencing aches in my body and couldn’t sleep, I started taking Paracetamol. Because I had an addictive personality, it didn’t take me long to start taking more than the prescribed dosage of tablets and boy did they make me feel good and temporarily healed! I would take anything between 6 to 8 Panados a day and nap during the day to work throughout the night. If I drank a lot (which was almost daily), I would ” cure” my hangover in advance by drinking Panado / Grandpa / Pain -Eeze rarely with water, but almost always with either wine or a cider.

As a child, I used to like downing nice tasting cough syrup for no reason. I eventually graduated from popping Panado to Ibuprofen and somewhere along the line, I got acquainted with some pretty dope tasting 9.9 % alcohol cough syrup and started taking large gulps of it  with the pills to help me fall asleep.

I thank God that I didn’t rapture anything but I saw my mum’s prescribed cough mixture the other day and thought hmmmm! I didn’t act on that hmmmm though.

I don’t know if I will continue with a part three of Breaking The Silence but I think this is enough for now. All this unpacking is both exhausting and relieving at the same time. I think I will take a little nap from it all. Besides, I have a sex, celibacy and soul ties post I am itching to complete and share.

Are you also a recovered pill popper? How’s that coming along?

Thanks for reading!